People frequently ask me questions about how we adopted, what professional we used, what a homestudy involves, etc.  A friend recently asked me to do a post about our experience with the process. 

 For our first adoption, we were very new to the process, so we hired a non-profit, full-service agency to help us.  They completed our homestudy, counseled us as we created our adoptive parent profile book, matched us with an expectant mother, took care of the hospital, insurance, and delivery issues, completed our post-placement visits per state-law, and handled our finalization.  It was nice having only one entity to deal with for the process.

For our second adoption, we had a similiar process.  We hired the same agency, however, we lived in a different state this time, so we had to hire a third party to handle our homestudy and post-placement visits.  The agency handled everything else for us. 

For this recent adoption, we felt a bit more confident in the process, so we decided to go partly independent.  Our state requires that a certified agency handle the legal aspects of an adoption and counsel the expectant mother, however, we are allowed to do a great deal on our own.  As a result, we found a good agency that specialized in homestudies and “designated adoptions.”  Since their involvement with the expectant mothers and birthmothers is very limited, it cut the price by more than half.  They completed our homestudy, then we branched out on our own to match for a baby.  We networked by telling everyone we knew that we were adopting.  After a lot of research, we also decided to put a profile on an adoptive parent profile website.  This is a website that often shows up in internet searches using the term “adoption.” Expectant mothers can browse the profiles of couples wanting to adopt, select favorites, and contact the ones they are interested in.  Within 3 months, we had been contacted by several women, including R’s birthmom.     

You can read the posts about our adoptions here. 

I tried to keep this post brief.  If you still have specific questions or want more information on domestic infant adoption, you can check some FAQ’s here, or leave your question as a comment on the blog, and I will answer as soon as I can.